In this day and age, you can never tell what a person REALLY looks like based on their Social Media profile pictures anymore... don't get me wrong, I am guilty myself for "beautifying" my photos before they go online! After all, especially if you are a Social Media persona who thrives on legit and all-adoring followers, you want to make yourself look presentable and even envied by your adoring fans.
I am not saying that's me - lol I am just a normal person and my most loyal adoring fans are my sisters and my mum and mother-in-law... who really just come here to stalk my cute kids, lol. Which is why I am taking the time to write this blog post.. to explain myself as well as to give you a perspective of what you see on the Internet and in magazine covers etc.
Women are beautiful. We are ALL beautiful! But somehow, beautiful is no longer enough. Somehow, in order to grace the cover of a magazine or to look absolutely stunning in pictures - you need to slap on layer and layers of makeup AND THEN have your photo photo-shopped even more.
What this creates is a new age of "Digital Beauty".
People desire to look stunningly and sometimes unrealistically beautiful so they beautify their selfies and invest in professional photo shoots and hide their true natural beauty underneath layers of physical makeup and digital re-touching.
Even selfie modes on smartphones have been pre-configured to a default "beauty mode" which automatically fixes all your blemishes and gives you a radiant look in every selfie.
What damage can this "trend" cause if you are not careful or mature enough to handle the harsh reality?
- You spend much more time on the Internet because this is where you CAN be the popular girl at school, and this is where you CAN be adored by people. The Internet is where you can have high self esteem knowing you can control how you present to others. You become addicted to your "Internet fame".. and thrive on positive comments from your followers.
- You become more self conscious "in real life" - choosing an outfit that looks good seems impossible. You feel like you need to spend two hours on your makeup each day just to look good "in real life". On days when you didn't have the time to "doll up" you walk around fearing you will bump into someone who has only seen you on Facebook.
Is this how we want to live? Do I really care if people find me on the streets and realize I look about 10kg heavier than I do on my photos online, and that most days I hardly wear any makeup?? I am just a hoodie and sweatpants mum running my everyday errands with my kids and I haven't showered before I left the house?
The answer is NO.. I don't care. I am comfortable with my skin. I try to look decent so I don't scare the kids at kinder - but I do not try to put on the same persona as I do on my Social Media platforms.
So why do I beautify myself online??
Before I answer, no, I do NOT apply digital make up every photo (the use of MakeUp Plus is just an illustration as an example... although how COOL is that app?!)... but I do make sure the selfie angle compliments me the most, and I choose a nice filter, I do tend to eliminate most blemishes and I do use beauty mode for the "radiant look" etc etc...
The answer is so simple... because IT PLEASES ME.
I don't do it to please others, I do it because it makes ME feel good.
And I know well enough that I can still look like that if I brush my hair and spend a decent amount of time on make up, and put on some nice looking contact lenses, but I am lazy in real life so I use digital tools to do it for me. Win-win!
So I say go ahead, post your BEST photos online and give the best impression of yourself to the world. As long as you don't take it too far and as long as it doesn't turn into an unhealthy addiction and constant need for Social Media attention, as long as you know the difference between the realistic everyday YOU and the seemingly flawless you online... I believe we can strike a good balance.